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People who tried to please others, end up being unhappy.

The following is an interesting article on people pleasers, it gives a greater insight into the physiological problems of such people pleasers.

One of the greatest impedients to good mental health, including that of self-esteem, is the exaggerated need to please other people. Healthy relationships obviously require considerations of the feelings of others, a compassionate desire to help those less fortunate and a realistic desire to be perceived as attractive and have friends. But people pleasers have many irrational ideas and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Often, these people pleasers are:

The root of the problem usually go back to childhood and adolescence when the desire to please parents or caregivers was rebuffed, rejected or otherwise unobtainable on a regular and frequent basis.

This constant search and struggle for affirmation only reinforced the belief that a more diligent and dedicated effort needed to be pursued to reach the elusive goal of being loved and accepted.

The basis of change involves a reappraisal of the way people relate to one another and includes a strong and consistent effort to attack and reverse the irrational and erroneous beliefs.

Here are some revised belief statement that may help.

Remember, one can please a few people some of the time, alot of people a little bit of the time and everyone none of the time.

Commandments..

Because I am the only person I will have a relationship with all my life, I choose: